Happy Spring!
We wanted to pop in to say we may not be posting again for quite a while and here's why...
We spoke to our adoption agency yesterday to review our adoption "preferences" and make a few little updates. During that call, we flat out asked how much longer they anticipate that we will be waiting if they HAD to guess. We wanted to know because our friends and family often ask and the truth is, we don't know. And, quite honestly, when it happens is not as big of a deal to us as I think people sometimes think it is. The truth is since we've been married over 20 years and have been thinking about adoption for almost 10 years, therefore a couple more years just doesn't seem like that big of a deal. More importantly, despite the wait and all that goes into adoption, we believe that God led us here and will see it through in His timing.
For those of you wondering, the expected wait time is another 1 1/2 to 2 years. There are two main reasons for this. #1- we are gender specific since we are requesting to adopt a girl which means our profile book get's shown a lot less since they would have to have birth moms who already know if they are having a girl. #2- A lot of birth moms want to be involved in naming the child the first name. As you all know, we've been praying for Abigail by name for years. If we did decide to change this decision, it would have to be a "God thing." At this point, we are not ready to make that change. However, we are in prayer about it. Despite all of this, there is always a chance that a birth mom could see our profile book next month and choose us. Or the adoption agency could get a cold call from a birth mom and we may be called if we are a fit. There are just so many variables that go into it all.
One thing that we will have to do early next year is an update. This involves doing a lot of paperwork again including medical forms, background checks, etc. We are not super excited about that but we'll do what we have to. After that, we will be good for another 3 years so that should certainly be the last major update we'd have to complete. So, if everything is quiet over here, just know that it's because we are patiently waiting for God to work it all out when the time is right. In the meantime, we'll be working to grow closer to Him so we can become more of what He wants us to be in order to make us better as a couple and better prepared to be parents.
And, maybe I'll even finish that degree I'm working on before Abigail comes along...
Love!
H & B
Thursday, March 31, 2016
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We started feeling a tug on our hearts toward adoption many years ago and we started praying, researching and talking about it. Even though we felt we were being called to adopt a little girl (and even knew what her name would be!), we did not feel like we were being led to do it at that moment in time. Well...5+ years later the desire is still there and we feel confident that is because God is the one who planted the desire in us in the first place.
We'd love to say that everything has fallen into place perfectly (including the funds to adopt) but that's not the case. Regardless, we believe God is telling us it’s time to take a huge leap of faith and act on the desire He planted in us to adopt. We have no idea how it's all going to work out but we know we serve a mighty God!! Without a doubt, we can’t do it on our own and don’t think God intended for us to. So, with His help and yours, we hope to be able to introduce you to Abigail Grace in His perfect timing!
There are many ways that you can help. First and foremost, we ask for your prayer through this journey! We know that it is likely to be a long process. We need God's guidance and peace for as long as it takes and for any obstacles we may encounter.
Secondly, the simple fact of the matter is that we need funds to make this happen. In that regard, you will see a "Donate" button if you would like to make a direct donation which will be applied at 100% to Abigail's adoption fund. In addition, we have some great fundraising links that you will find here including SendOutCards, T-shirts, Coffee and Flowers. Please know that anything you can do is greatly appreciated!
Thank you all!
Love and Blessings,
Benson and Heather
We'd love to say that everything has fallen into place perfectly (including the funds to adopt) but that's not the case. Regardless, we believe God is telling us it’s time to take a huge leap of faith and act on the desire He planted in us to adopt. We have no idea how it's all going to work out but we know we serve a mighty God!! Without a doubt, we can’t do it on our own and don’t think God intended for us to. So, with His help and yours, we hope to be able to introduce you to Abigail Grace in His perfect timing!
There are many ways that you can help. First and foremost, we ask for your prayer through this journey! We know that it is likely to be a long process. We need God's guidance and peace for as long as it takes and for any obstacles we may encounter.
Secondly, the simple fact of the matter is that we need funds to make this happen. In that regard, you will see a "Donate" button if you would like to make a direct donation which will be applied at 100% to Abigail's adoption fund. In addition, we have some great fundraising links that you will find here including SendOutCards, T-shirts, Coffee and Flowers. Please know that anything you can do is greatly appreciated!
Thank you all!
Love and Blessings,
Benson and Heather
Our Love Story
Ours is an unusual story of love and committment. We met at a very young age. It didn't take us long to realize that this was the real deal so we made the "crazy" decision at the ages of 16 and 20 to get married. Twenty years later we are still going strong and ready to add a little girl to our family.
When people ask us for marriage advice, the first thing we tell them is "Please don't assume we have it all figured out because we don't." But, there is one thing we know without doubt! God brought us together. He means for us to be each other's for life and we don't pretend to know better than Him. As anyone in a good marriage will tell you, it's not always easy but it's worth it. With God at the core of our relationship, we believe it will only get better as the years go on! And, we're looking forward to sharing future years with Abigail Grace in God's perfect timing.
Our Wedding Day (July 8, 1995)
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